If you're married and not very happy with your sex life at the moment, it's normal to wonder about Here's what we know about how often married couples have sex, according to research and experts. But first an important note: "It's important to know that a normal sexual frequency is determined by what the couple agrees is mutually satisfying," sexologist Shamyra Howard, LCSW , tells mbg. And she adds: "Sexual frequency is not an indicator of sexual satisfaction. According to the General Social Survey 's data on about married people who shared details about how often they had sex in the past year:.
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No matter your relationship status, sex remains a complicated — and often touchy — subject. Although no one wants to admit it, people across all demographics are spending less time in the sack. But how much sex should couples really be having? Research has shown that couples who have sex at least once a week are happier than their less-bedded counterparts. A caveat: Happiness levels don't rise with more time spent under the sheets. Still, that number doesn't quite apply for everyone.
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That said, a study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that the average adult currently enjoys sex 54 times a year, which equates to about once a week. This is less sex, by about nine per year, compared to a similar study done in the s. Interestingly, though, another study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science — which surveyed over 30, Americans over 40 years for three different projects — discovered that a once weekly frequency was the Goldilocks standard for happiness. Sexual intimacy is vital in any relationship, and not just for the sensual pleasure of it all. Sanam Hafeez , a NYC-based licensed clinical psychologist.
Many factors can influence how often people have sex. Relationship status, health, and age can all play a role. As the relationship progresses, the rate might slow down. If they are busy with work or childcare, they might not have as much time for sex as they used to. Much depended on whether the respondents were single, partnered, or married.